I have noticed a large swell in the articles I read from people who are both single and in marriages/relationships who don't believe in monogamy. Usually the premise is that humans are just not meant to only sleep with one person. To me, this sounds crazy lol, but I have to take into consideration that everyone's lives are different and everyone has the right to define their relationship as they see fit. I personally believe that you can be completely happy married to and only sleeping with one person. But that's because that is my reality. Everyone's life isn't my life.
I have no problem with the "non-monogamists" of the world. I do however have a problem with "anti-monogamists," if that makes sense. Those are the people who tear monogamists because they dare to believe they can be happy with just one person. To them I say: don't place your circumstances on others.
Just because you have never found a person worth marrying, or worth being monogamous for doesn't mean monogamy/marriage is flawed, it means your relationships have failed at monogamy.
Are you a monogamist?
I agree. People who project their issues onto others, cannot stand it. I have friends who aren't monogamous but they respect my monogamist relationship so we're good. There's no need to be rude about views which is what you're talking about.
ReplyDeletei try to take every situation at face value. But in my experience I'd prefer a monogamous relationship. My upbringing and my faith have a lot to do with my decision. It's what I want for myself...i can understand the counter arguments, but to me its sort of a "pick your poison" matter -- to each their own, but neither is going to be an easy road.
ReplyDelete@A.Sharie & Curly Film Chick- I'm definitely with you both.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely makes sense! I hope I've never come off as an anti-monogamist, although I do know I get pretty aggressive sometimes :) It's funny because for the most part I do still consider myself a "monogamist" because I spend most of my time with J alone, we do all the couple-y things like cook dinner, see movies, decompress... we never want to have more than one "relationship" ... just the occasional fun. I think that's what separates me from a lot of the other non-monogamists. I think being in a relationship with more than one person would exhaust me.
ReplyDeleteAgree. People who are into non-monogamus relationships are really starting to develop an attitude, just like a lot of homosexuals. It truly is the day where folks call good evil and evil good.
ReplyDelete@suggestivetongue - Noo, you've never come off as an anti-monogamist lol.
ReplyDeletei agree...i think marriage is an individual choice between the individual and their faith and no one should place value on what another decides to do in their marriage..
ReplyDeleteI see your point. However, I'm curious to know what articles you have been reading because I might be reading into your opinion the wrong way. Are we talking about Polygamy or swingers? LOL ... I disagree with Polygamy because it often involves slavery on some part of the femaale -weather it's mental, physical or emotional. Swingers on the other hand, are couples that are making choices on a (generally) leveled playing field.
ReplyDelete@onewu2 - People in a relationship or single who while they have a boy friend/girlfriend/husband or wife they don't believe the relationship could work without them being allowed to sleep with other people. Those same, who will say that a monogamous relationship cannot be a happy relationship because the couple is denying their desire to sleep with other people. I'll start to gchat you links when I come across them!
ReplyDeleteWoaw! That's quite interesting! I thought that was just an excuse to be a player but if it's a growing sentiment within both males AND females, then I can totally see why it should be respected. Thakns for sharing.
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